Surviving Holidays During A Divorce
The holiday season is here. As Halloween passes, you may worry about the following holidays. Will the following holidays go as poorly as this one did? Will the communication get better? Divorce is not easy, but going through a divorce during the holidays can be challenging. Some things can help improve this tough time if you’re facing a holiday divorce.
The holidays are difficult for divorced parents. You may feel pulled in different directions or have to choose between spending time with your children or giving that time to your ex. But there are ways to navigate the holidays as divorced parents and make the best of a difficult situation.
Here are some tips:
1. Communicate with your ex: If you’re both on the same page about how you’ll handle the holidays, it will make things much easier. Talk about which days you will have the kids and how you’ll handle transportation. This will help avoid any last-minute conflict. Regardless of who your ex is, make sure to document your conversation somewhere. Documentation will help to remember what was said and the plan. If an ex gets upset or blows up over the pre-determined schedule, it will also help show the court that an agreement was already made.
2. Be flexible: If your holiday plans need to change at the last minute, be flexible. Although holiday times can be stressful, not working together will worsen situations. The most important thing is that your children can spend time with both of you. Remember that this is just a phase in your life. The holidays will eventually end, and you’ll be able to move on with your life. Try to focus on the positive aspects of your life and the future.
3. Make new traditions: Just because you’re divorced doesn’t mean you can’t create new traditions as a family. If your kids are old enough, involve them in the planning process. This can help them feel like they’re a part of something, even though their family is now divided.
4. Seek support: If you’re struggling to cope with the holidays as a divorced parent, seek help from friends or family. There’s no shame in admitting that this time of year is tough for you, and it’s important to have people you can rely on. Navigating the holidays as a divorced parent can be tough, but it’s not impossible. You can make the best of a difficult situation by communicating with your ex, being flexible, and making new traditions. And if you’re struggling, don’t be afraid to seek support from those around you. Also, make sure to focus on taking care of yourself. Focus on how you feel and do what you need to be okay. Take extra time to ensure you are in a good headspace for yourself and your children. If it has become too hard to cope or perform daily duties or tasks, consider talking to a therapist or counselor. These professionals can help you work through your feelings and cope with the stress of divorce.
If you’re going through a holiday divorce, these tips can help you get through it. Remember to care for yourself, spend time with supportive people, and seek professional help. Most importantly, focus on the positive aspects of your life and the future.